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Clay Hightower

The Holidays and Boundaries Part III: Taking a Risk By Clay Hightower, LMSW

By Addiction, change, intimacy, Relationship, Resilience, spirituality

Throughout this entire series on boundaries, I have reaffirmed and will continue to reaffirm that it is my right to set boundaries that ensure my safety, and that others do not get to dictate if they are reasonable or valid. While this remains true, it does not acknowledge the other side of that coin, which is that maintaining boundaries in relationships can create consequences in those relationships. As I stated in my first post, maintaining boundaries can create feelings of fear, responsibility, obligation, guilt, and shame (FROGS) for me. Being on the receiving end of boundaries also creates feelings. The most commonly expressed experience is rejection, which comes out as anger or sadness.

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