Boundaries Part IVBy Clay Hightower, LSMW The holiday season is finally upon us. I know that for me, the holiday season this year felt like a mythical destination that we…
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An opportunity to let go of 2020 and community rituals to bring in 2021 An opportunity to let go of the resentments towards self and others and bring in forgiveness….
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Throughout this entire series on boundaries, I have reaffirmed and will continue to reaffirm that it is my right to set boundaries that ensure my safety, and that others do not get to dictate if they are reasonable or valid. While this remains true, it does not acknowledge the other side of that coin, which is that maintaining boundaries in relationships can create consequences in those relationships. As I stated in my first post, maintaining boundaries can create feelings of fear, responsibility, obligation, guilt, and shame (FROGS) for me. Being on the receiving end of boundaries also creates feelings. The most commonly expressed experience is rejection, which comes out as anger or sadness.